Online Dating – Wedding Season

Wedding season is in full swing and what most single people think is that they absolutely dread weddings. What worse is it to be reminded that you are single and perhaps lonely as well. On top of that, you will see people you have not met in a long time who will likely ask you about your marital status. First, be reminded that the wedding is not for you. It is for a friend or family whom you have a relationship with and they want to celebrate a special moment with you. So that should be the main focus. If is it not someone who you are close with and you received an invite as a courtesy, I would pass. With that said, not all is lost by attending a wedding if you have the right attitude.

Weddings is an excellent way to meet people. Even though you may not find someone immediately, you may reconnect with an old pal, relative who may hook you up with someone within their circle of friends. Some of the closest friends I have now I met when I was a bridesmaid and they were in the wedding party also. Nothing forces you to get to know someone in a short amount of time than to spend an entire day helping our your dear friends get married! This is the same whether you are single or in a relationship at a wedding.

When you are at a wedding, people are generally extremely friendly and very open to meeting people. Best of all, you will find people within the same social economic status due to the closeness of the wedding couple. If you do attend a wedding with no date, be bold and chat with people all around. Throughout the party, there will be opportunities such as after the wedding ceremony, the reception, and during the banquet. Be a social butterfly and pounce around tables where you know someone and meet guests at their table. Watch out for those who have rings on them though. You don’t want to appear you are hitting on someone else’s dessert :)

Married in France? Don’t use online dating sites!

An interesting article came out of the UK DailyMail.com. A judge in France ruled that a married women may be considered cheating on her spouse by using online dating site! A judge ruled and granted divorce for the husband because the wife flirted on online dating sites and sent explicit photos of herself despite not meeting any of them.

The online dating site she used was based in Belgium called Netlog. She defendant indicated that she only made this contact with these men due to the fact that she was going through depression.

Along with this case, the DailyMail also had these stats:

  • Through a survey conducted in April 2014, 1/5 of all people 18-35 years of age have secretly used a dating website while in a relationship
  • 21% of the same age have used the dating app without their partners knowledge
  • Up to 58% indicated that they have used a dating app
  • 14% acknowledged using it right now despite being in a relationship
  • Top dating apps? 1) Plenty of Fish (43%), 2) Tinder (37%), 3) Match.com (29%).

 

Using online dating websites is grounds for divorce, rules French judge | Mail Online.

 

Online Dating – Stop Missing Your Ex Boyfriend Girlfriend

It is hard to forget about your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. Admit it. You often compare people and see if they are up to par with who you had in the past. You browse endlessly on dating sites to see if you can find someone comparable. You also can’t stop snooping or cyber stalking your ex to get a hint on how they are doing and how you match up to their new relationship.

None of this is healthy and it prevents you from truly moving on to your next relationship. There are several ways that can help you overcome this. First, understand that break ups take time. Do not look for a new relationship to cover your old pain. This is not fair for you or the other person and you are simply wasting your time and energy. Second, go through your feelings and emotions and understand why you are feeling what you feel. Don’t doubt yourself and approach it with a positive attitude that you can overcome this. Next, find the good out of what you just went through. See the silver lining and learn from your mistake, cherish the memories, and move on. Be a bigger, better person because of what you learned. Next, take away physical reminders of your past relationship. Don’t carry pictures, memorabilia, or anything that would remind you of your text. This includes any digital footprint such as text messages. Next, keep yourself busy. Do something positive such as volunteering or visiting family. The more you sit around with spare time, the more your mind will wander around your past.

There you go! Hope you can get over this and move on to your next stage of your life!

Online Dating – Open to Dating Older Men?

When filling out an online profile, you will be asked the range of men you are open to meeting. The range allow you to basically select any age between 18  to any age you can imagine. Back in high school, the most interaction you will have are boys in the same class. You may befriend boys from other upper or underclassmen but the max age difference is 3 years. There will always be some girl who will bring some college dude to the prom but any activity beyond prom night may be a conviction in the making.

But we are no longer in high school and there are many fishies in the sea. Dating older or younger men has its pros and cons.

Older men tend to be more patient as they are mature and stable. They may have more experience under their belt in terms of handling whatever life throws at them and relationships. They tend to know how to treat a lady and have the money to pamper. Older men also are more likely to approach you and take the initiative in courting you. They should be more accomplished in their field and have a sense of confidence and assertiveness in their demeanor.

The disadvantage in dating older men is that they may be more likely to be divorced or have too much “baggage”. They may be seeking for a serious relationship and reveal that to you shortly after dating. Another disadvantage may be the tendency to treat you like a child. It’s no secret that you may lack the life experience and older men may have the tendency to treat you like a child.

Weigh the pros and cons and decide how old is too old for your match.

xoxo,

Ashley