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Admit it, we have all judged certain couples when we people watch at restaurants or a busy street. The young-sexy lady with a guy who can be old enough to be her grandpa (nothing personal Hef..) or a smart, career minded woman with a wild-stallion-but-can-barely-spell dude. DUUUUDE.
The movie ‘She’s Out of My League’ outlines a man who is considered a ‘5’ goes after a ’10’ lady after a chance encounter. The average joe was a TSA agent who stumbles upon a lovely blond’s cell phone she mistakenly left behind. The movies goes on a romantic comedy about the low self esteem, self conscious average Joe about how he can possibly score with this hot woman.
This is one benefit of online dating. You can start fresh. Gone are the mistakes you have made in the past, the fool you made yourself at that one party where photos of the aftermath wound up on someone’s Facebook feed. Your interest will not know about these incidents unless you offer to share your past. As a matter of fact, it may not be a bad thing to bring it up. Everyone knows that no one is perfect. A person who is more willing to embrace their mistakes is much more desirable than someone who keeps it in the closet.
One of the things you can do is observe your good traits. This may require you to ask a trusted friend to give you honest feedback about what you can bring to the table in a relationship. If you can, take it to the next level and ask about what areas you can work on. Everyone has positive qualities and it is important that you show this in your profile.
Lastly, you need to give the out of leageu’rs a chance. Imagine being a beautiful person and everyone thinks you are high maintenance? That wouldn’t be fair. Perhaps that person may be very compatible with you and very down to earth. Don’t judge someone just because they are out of your league. You may be pleasantly surprised to find that they thought you were out of their league.