eharmony – who questions

I’m going to start a new tidbit section on answering quick questions which has been piling up but not enough to warrant it’s own post. I will break this down to who, what, when, why, how, are, where, and which. You will soon get what I am doing. In this section, I will start with the ‘who’ questions. If you have additional questions, feel free to leave them in the comments section:

Who uses eharmony?

eharmony is primarily used by people who are interested in getting into a serious relationship. They are less interested in flings and are looking for a long term partner ultimately getting married. The userbase tends to be slightly older than Match.com or dating apps such as Tinder.

Who started eharmony?

eharmony was founded by Dr. Neil Clark Warren. He is an American clinical psychologist. He also has a theology (Christian) degree from Princeton Theological Seminary. He patented a method to match people called “29 dimensions of compatibility” which is based on four categories – character and constitution, personality, emotional make up and skills, and family and values. He founded eharmony  in 2000. Throughout, he has been involved on and off and finally stepped down as CEO in July 2016.

Who sends the first communication request?

While eharmony uses its patented matching method to match two profiles, it is unclear who has the option to initiate the questions. Dr. Warren himself didn’t make this clear but encouraged everyone to go ahead and send all of your matches questions. Sending a question should not be considered aggressive. It is merely the initial step in the ‘get to know each other’ process. However, Dr. Warren does warn that the person receiving the questions may reject it and it may hurt. He wants you to focus on the prize, which is finding your life partner.

Who Pays in eHarmony?

There are two eharmony membership types – paid and free members. Previously, free members had extremely limited access to any communication tools. All free eharmony members could see were their matches. If they wanted to initiate communication, they would be directed to a paid membership. In the last few years, eharmony has allowed even free members to initiate communication with their matches. However, free members have never been able to see their matches pictures. Aside from that it doesn’t matter if you are young or old, male or female, you will have to pay if you want to see pictures of your matches and initiate communication.

Who makes the first move?

There is no rule in terms of who makes the first move. In the offline world, some may still feel that men should make the first move. But in eharmony, anyone can initiate communication. As Dr. Warren said in the above article, one should not think too hard when making the first move. It shouldn’t be made to the equivalent of asking someone out. You will have to go through numerous steps and stages before you can actually go on a date.

Who has viewed me?

There is no way to tell who has viewed your profile. I recall a few years ago there were rumors that certain apps in Facebook will allow you to see who have looked at your profile. The app was tremendously popular as the condition to enable this feature you had to share and like the Facebook page. Well it turned out to be a hoax. Facebook publicly said that users will not have such access to see who has looked at your profile. The only social media site I know of which has such feature is Linkedin. Even so, you can see who has viewed you only if the user has enabled the feature. Of course Linkedin is not Facebook or eharmony. Although some people use Linkedin as eharmony. That is the topic for another time.

 

That was fun! Next, I will do a Q/A on ‘what’ questions!